I stumbled across an interesting Q and A session on the responsibilities of the parents of the groom. Basically, the parents of the groom’s family has always been thought of as having no responsibilities. Yes, I know, dinner at the outback a couple of days before the wedding is called a “rehearsal dinner” and is supposed to be thrown by the groom’s side. But that’s it. Or is it? And, is the rehearsal dinner itself some small responsibility or is it kind of a bid deal?
In short, the rehearsal dinner is kind of a big deal and yes, the groom’s parents have plenty of other responsibilities. First, the rehearsal dinner. There is the choosing of guests, the sending of invitations, the restaurant to book (and I was joking about the Outback before, its a fine restaurant, but not for a rehearsal dinner), seating and finally, the groomsmen gifts. This last one, choosing of the gifts for the grooms wedding party is something I had no idea was the responsibility of the groom’s parents before reading this Q&A. To be honest, I’m still not sure I agree, but this Diane Isbell (who wrote this piece) does deem herself and etiquette expert so I’ll defer to her.
Some other responsibilities include:
- Flowers for the bride, groom, both wedding parties and anyone else in the entire church that will be wearing one
- Fees for the Church, Synagogue, Mosque or any other venue that you might hold the wedding
- Marriage license
- Fees for any and all musicians at the wedding location (this does not include the entertainment at the reception)
- Any fees for the officiant to get to the wedding, like plane fare or lodging
- The cost of the honeymoon (this is a big one and one I was not aware of)
- Bachelor dinner (not sure I agree but I’ll again defer to Isbell
- Cost of getting the groom and best man to the wedding
So there you have it, and you thought the bride’s family had it tough paying for that little thing called the wedding reception! Incidentally, I know the caption above is of Steve Martin in Father of the Bride. They didn’t make a Father of the Groom!