According to scientific studies having friends is good for you. Pals are always there to share laughs and even tears with and does wonders for your overall mental health – of course, we already knew that!
However, making new friends isn’t always easy, especially if you’re years past the good ole days of college. Meeting new people can frightening and very difficult, so here are a few tips to help you find some awesome new folks to add to your life.
Look at Acquaintances in a New Light
We all know people from work or other social gatherings that aren’t quite considered friends, but perhaps they could be? It can be scary taking the acquaintance relationship to the next level – and nobody wants to do the ‘walk of shame’ if you get rejected. So what is the solution? Researchers have developed what they call the “Fast Friends” protocol. This is a specific set of questions for both people to answer, and claim they can turn strangers into friends in 45 minutes. Check them out and see if you’re game;
~ Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
~ Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
~ If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
~ If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?
We all get into slumps and routines in life, but in order to make lasting friendships we have to get out there and this can be as simple as saying one little word – “Yes!”
If a co-worker, neighbour or just an acquaintance invites you out, accept the invitation. It’s not only a great way to break dull, boring routines, but the time spent with this person may just lead to more and before you know it you have a new friend.
More Than Just a Hobby
Hobbies are a wonderful way to meet new people, plus you already know you have something in common. If you’re a avid book reader, book clubs are the perfect way to meet new people. If you’re into dancing, running or yoga, try a new style with lessons, join a gym that offers yoga classes or run a marathon. There’s no better way to get to know people than with shared common interests.
Try these ideas or some of your own and you may just find you have a whole new group or even just one individual person in your life that went from stranger/acquaintance to BFF. Leave me a comment if you try any of these suggestions or have one of your own – I ‘d love to hear from you!